The story “The Elephant in the Tavern” explores the idea that most of what people “say” is actually unsaid, and it claims that we are actually broadcasting precisely what we wish to keep secret: what we don’t want to say. So if this is actually happening, how do we conduct ourselves? How do we have a measure of control over what we are actually communicating to others all day long?

The How to Story approach is to simply know that you are doing this, and start to pay attention like a storyteller.